At what age do you think you should have your life in order? As playwright George Bernard Shaw once famously said, “youth is wasted on the young,” and in some respects, he is right. However, there is merit in being able to make some mistakes and gain experiences that can mold your life and teach you valuable lessons at the same time.
Getting your life in order isn’t a race, and what works for one person won’t for someone else. As a benchmark, many statistics point to the age of 29 being the benchmark when your life should be in order. This allows you to enter your 30s more stable and secure.
But with global pandemics disrupting life as we know it, along with many other variables, including job losses, unforeseen circumstances, and poor decisions, things don’t always go to plan, and some people need a little bit of extra time in getting on an even keel.
If you have decided that now is the time you need to step up and sort your life out, then this guide has some helpful suggestions on what you can do.
Assess Your Situation Today
There is no time like the present to get started on overhauling your life. Once you have committed, you need to make a tart and be all in to succeed for this.
So take along a hard look at your wife now. Identify all the good areas of your life, what you like, what you enjoy, and what you are good at. Chances are you will need to use this as a base to improve all areas of your life, so you need to know where you are starting from.
Next, write down the not-so-good—the things you dislike and why, what you want to change, and where your weaknesses are. Don’t be afraid of identifying areas you can improve on. There is strength in knowing your weak areas, and it gives you something to aim for when looking at overhauling your entire life.
Make Some Goals
What does your ideal future look like to you? How is it different from where you are now? It could be that you need a new job, or you have retrained in a new career. It could be buying your first home or getting out of debt. It doesn’t need to be just one. Write down everything you want to achieve and some realistic time goals.
Avoid adding in if you want to be married by a specific age or have children before you are 30. For example, life events like this don’t always work to a plan, and it could result in you making the wrong choices to tick a box. Instead, you can say you will clear all of your debt within the next 3 years, or you will have retrained in a new career by the time you are 30. These are much more realistic goals to set a timeline for.
How Will You Get there?
The journey is part of the goal, and you should bear this in mind. The reward at the end will only be that much sweeter when you take steps to get there and put in the time and effort to turn them from goals to reality. And when it happens, you should be proud.
Planning the journey is an important step, and you need to put a lot of thought and research into this part. Be realistic about what different goals will take. Changing careers may mean that you need to quit your current job for full-time education, depending on the training required. It would also be that you need to make sacrifices to help you pay for this journey.
Have someone close by who can provide you with support and reassurance to help you to stay on track. Do you need professional help to reach your goals? Be it therapy or addressing addiction with Enterhealth to get the treatment you need.
Don’t Talk, Do
In the words of Elvis Presley, “A little less conversation, a little more action, please,” While not strictly in the same context the king of rock and roll had in mind, but still the same concept nonetheless. Please stop talking about what you want or need to change and do it. It could be via little steps you make frequently, or it can be jumping all in with both feet. Whatever you do, do it; the rest will work itself out.
Change Your Mindset
You can do all the right things, but if you don’t believe in yourself, then nothing will actually change all that much, and it will be much easier for you to abandon all of your plans and end up back at square one.
Be positive and talk definitively. Swap “I can’t” for “I Can” or “I will” Have faith and confidence in your abilities and be resolute even in the face of adversity. After all, you and you alone are responsible for your destiny, and if you don’t believe in your ability to make the changes you want to make, then no one else will, and the harder they will be to achieve.
On the same note, remove anyone who is against you and is out to undermine your plans and stop you from getting where you need to be. Toxic energy can be far-reaching, and the last thing you want is the process to make it more difficult by having naysayers tearing you down as you aim to build yourself up.
Arm Yourself with Tools
Be it a note app on your phone, daily motivation quotes, or arming yourself with info such as updates on savings goals or changes in the housing market if you aim to buy a home. Write down and document as much as possible. This can help you to visualize your end goal and make changes to the journey if need be.
It is also a great way to see how far you have come and what is left before reaching where you need to be. A lack of motivation is expected here and there, but having the tools to map your goals so you can visually see them.
Support Your Body
You are the only person who can help you reach your goals, and you need to make sure you are supporting your body and mind to help you get where you need to be. Eating a healthy balanced diet, getting adequate exercise, and supporting your mental health are some of the best ways you can look after yourself.
Add to this drinking water and getting enough sleep for your body each night, and you are giving yourself the benefit of being able to fire on all cylinders as you work through the changes you need to make.
This journey isn’t guaranteed to be easy or even quick. However, it is the best way to get to where you need to be regardless of your age and stature. You cannot pursue your goals and dreams if your body isn’t up to the task. So while you are making progress in some or all areas of your life, do not neglect the one thing that pulls them all together. That is you!
Making the necessary changes in your life to get yourself back on track and get your life together requires a definitive plan and action. Talking about it will only get you so far, manifesting good luck and security in your life. Being able to follow through on plans and make the appropriate steps is the only way to get to where you need to be.